The Weekly Reframe: Switching Focus from Feeling to Intention

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Confidence isn’t born - it’s earned.
It comes from keeping promises to yourself, even when no one is watching.
— Dean Graziosi

Truth moment: over a year ago, in June 2024, I made a promise to write one email each week on a topic close to my heart. Most weeks, I write about something I need to hear, too. The quotes I share move me deeply, and I love passing that spark along to you.

Lately, though, I’ve had the thought: I don’t know what to write this week. I don’t feel like writing.
The doubts and worries have been loud:
Is this even making a difference?
The world feels crazy and polarized, maybe I should be talking about that instead?
Maybe I’ll just take a break; no one will notice if they don’t get their Friday email. I’ve shown up for over a year - I’ve earned a break.

But here’s the thing: I made a commitment to write every week. That’s only been possible because I stopped focusing on how I feel and started focusing on my intention - to contribute, in some small way, to this community.

Before coaching, I’d always wanted to write a blog. I started a few, but each time I stopped when I didn’t feel like it. Every time I gave up, my confidence and self-worth dipped a little lower. I built a quiet belief that I couldn’t follow through on anything.

The truth is, I’m a deeply feeling being. Sensitive. Intense. Many of my clients are, too.  It’s one of our greatest gifts. But those same deep feelings can also stop us from taking the actions that help us share our gifts with the world. 

When we let our thoughts and emotions run the show, we lose confidence and wonder why. It’s because we’re letting fleeting feelings dictate our actions, instead of letting our intentions, values and strengths guide them. 

Confidence grows when we keep our small commitments to ourselves, despite our mind protesting, and our actions reflect who we truly are, not the stories our minds tell us about who we are. And because of the brain’s negativity bias, those stories are rarely kind.

So I write to you this week from a humble, vulnerable place: I almost didn’t. I almost skipped this one. But I realized that would be breaking a promise to myself and to you - and that’s not who I’m interested in being.

As you read this, I invite you to look gently at your own life. Where might your thoughts or emotions be standing between you and something that truly matters to you? What promise - big or small - is asking to be tended to and honored, no matter how you feel in the moment?

So here we are. And here I am.
Thank you for being here. For reading, reflecting, and sharing this space with me. My hope, as always, is that something in these words lifts you up, even just a little.

Step By Step,

Jessie