The Weekly Reframe: Being and giving the love that you are
Supporting you to free your mind so you can live from your heart!
“In any moment, on any given day, I can measure my wellness by asking this question: Is my attention on loving, or is my attention on who isn’t loving me?”
— Andrea Gibson
Our entire life is shaped by where we place our attention. When our attention is on loving, we are connected to the love within us and naturally extend that love outward to whoever is in front of us, wherever we go. This is a generative, generous, and purposeful focus. From this place, we ask, "How can I be and give the love that I am?" And this act of being love leads us into a state of wellness. There are an infinite number of ways to be and demonstrate love. What are some of the ways that occur to you as you read this?
In contrast, when our attention is on who isn’t loving me, our focus becomes rooted in fear. Often, this fear stems from a deep, unconscious belief that we are “not enough.” Not good enough, not smart enough, not attractive enough, not [fill in the blank] enough.
This belief has been ingrained in us over generations and quietly runs in the background of our lives. It shows up in our feelings, behaviors and interactions. Especially in our efforts to seek love and validation from others to prove our worth. This survival-driven pattern is exhausting, both for ourselves and for those around us.
When we focus on getting love rather than giving it, we ironically repel the very connection we long for. This misalignment drains our energy and can ultimately lead to disconnection and unwellness.
The path to wellness begins when we shift our attention from trying to get love, to simply being love.
Step By Step,
Jessie