The Weekly Reframe: When Life is Unraveling - Trust

Supporting you to free your mind so you can live from your heart!

“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. Its shell cracks, its insides come out, and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” 

— Cynthia Occelli

What I love about this quote is the reminder of the potential inside every seed, and inside every one of us.

An acorn doesn’t resemble the mighty oak it’s destined to become. If you looked midway through its transformation: cracked open, breaking apart, roots pushing in one direction while a sprout reaches toward the unknown - you might think something is going wrong, when in fact, that growth process is what creates strength, resilience and expansion. 

Sometimes the most supportive thing we can do is allow our lives to fall apart or unravel, so they can be rebuilt from a more authentic place. Change, by its nature, is uncomfortable. The brain reads unfamiliar territory as a threat, unless we consciously teach it that the shift is intentional and aligned, and that we are choosing to stretch in this way.

As I approached my 40s, I knew I wanted my life to look completely different. I no longer wanted to live in the tiny apartment I had called home for over a decade. A place that once felt like a miracle with its rent-controlled price and incredible neighborhood, but had begun to feel like golden handcuffs I had outgrown.

I wanted a new environment, one with a real kitchen, a bathtub and laundry. A space where I could breathe and expand. And I wanted to fully step into coaching as my life’s work.

To create that I had to take enormous leaps of faith. They did not feel like love and light, and logical and easy. They felt like loss, disorientation, and the unknown. But I trusted what I had learned through coaching: if it was to be, it was up to me. I had to build the capacity to take bold action and then release attachment to the outcome. To soothe my fearful brain that told me to stay where I was even though my heart new I was ready to expand. And here’s the paradox, once I committed and chose, the outcomes more often than not aligned beautifully. But I had to first be willing to not know.

I also understood that walking through that fire would deepen my ability to support my clients. Whether they’re reinventing their lives or making one meaningful change, because I had lived it. And I’ve continued to live it, again and again.

Now, my life looks nothing like it did five years ago. Most days feel like a gift, not because everything is perfect (that’s not how life works), but because I wake up able to say: Yes. I choose this.

This weekend I invite you into a gentle reflection with these prompts:

1. What is unraveling for you right now that might actually be making space for your next chapter?

2. In what area of your life are you being asked to trust the unknown a little more than feels comfortable?

3. Where are you clinging to the familiar even though you’ve outgrown it?

4. If you trusted that temporary chaos could lead to deeper alignment, what choice would you make next?

Step By Step,

Jessie