60-Second Mind Shift: Detach to Thrive - A Better Way to Create What You Want
Supporting you to free your mind so you can live from your heart!
“When you stop needing something, you give yourself permission to create it".
-Steve Chandler
If you need the thing you say you want in order to be happy, energetically, you’ll actually repel it.
It’s taken me a long time to truly understand this concept.
Here’s the conundrum: it’s part of the human condition, and another "cosmic joke" as I like to call it. It’s called “if only” syndrome. If only I owned a house. If only I lost 20 pounds. If only I had more money, was in a loving relationship, had a child, got promoted...
Again, it’s completely normal to want these things. We all do. The issue isn’t the desire, it’s the need. When we grip these desires tightly, as if our worth or happiness depends on them, we create suffering. That kind of attachment comes from a deeper belief that not having the thing means something negative about who we are. We judge ourselves, and that judgment creates a victim mindset. Ask me how I know. :-)
The victim believes: “If my external circumstances were different, then I could be happy.” Actually, it works the other way around.
We can’t control what happens outside of us. What we can do is take meaningful action toward the things we want, without making our happiness or self-worth dependent on the outcome. This is a subtle but powerful energetic shift. It’s a dance between desire and detachment.
As the godfather of coaching, Steve Chandler who is quoted above says: It’s the best news in the world when you don’t get what you want, because then you discover you didn’t need it to be happy after all.
That’s true freedom.
And in the beautiful paradox (cosmic joke) of life, it's often when we finally let go of needing the thing, while still taking inspired action toward it, that we create it.
Step By Step,
Jessie
